Comments on Wondir Health: Q&A of the Week

i have bilateral menieres disease and have been in...

2006-03-25T01:12:00.000-05:00

i have bilateral menieres disease and have been in therapy for over 2 yrs. i have to stay in therapy in order for them to maintain my meds. it is hard for me to even talk to them still. because no matter what i say, it seems they will not understand because they do not live through what i do. so i don't have the option of opting out of therapy- if u feel ur ready then maybe u are- but if you feel like u still can't talk to them, then maybe your not as ready as you think

It's good that you are moving on, all the best to ...

2006-03-25T00:11:00.000-05:00

It's good that you are moving on, all the best to you.
I don't think you have to break this relationship completely and abruptly, you can probably, possibly stay in touch with her even after you stop your therapy.
I am in therapy right now, and I consider my therapist my confidant than my mother or as a mother figure though I have heard therapist are regarded as mother figures. Perhaps you can apply this trust that you have with her in your life with others in your life.

your feelings are normal, one grows attachment to ...

2006-03-21T22:54:00.000-05:00

your feelings are normal, one grows attachment to their therapist. It happens, you share many of your most personal feelings with that person. You enter into a safe mode, you feel secure, the attachments and needs grow. If your therapist is as smart as he or she should be,they too know this and they know that you will soon began to grown out their need. So you should share with them the need to move on when you are ready, but don't close the door completely, leave on the basis that if you need, you may come back.

How lucky you are having found somebody who has as...

2006-03-19T21:04:00.000-05:00

How lucky you are having found somebody who has assisted you in healing. I recently spent one hour with a Psychriast who spent most of the time filling me in on her problems, I was then charged a hefty fee and felt quite resentful towards her, but admit I did not have the courage to tell her what I thought, merely decided not to go back to her again.

Your therapist must free up time to help others who now find themself in the position you once were and how can she help them by developing dependance in clients if this is what is happening.

You need to listen to that quite inner voice within and be true to yourself.

try to space your appointment a little longer each...

2006-03-18T22:03:00.000-05:00

try to space your appointment a little longer each time you go back. this will work for you definitely. That the way to go.
and you do not have to worry.

I been in therapy for over 15yrs. with PTSD and De...

2006-03-18T16:13:00.000-05:00

I been in therapy for over 15yrs. with PTSD and Depression. When you feel like your ready to go on then that's what you should talk to her about. Her job is to help you get to that point. If anything she will be happy for you. I've had several different therapist over the years and the ones that have helped me I've let them know. So don't think you should not talk to her about how you feel that is what she is there for.

If you are having a problem telling your therapist...

2006-03-18T13:40:00.000-05:00

If you are having a problem telling your therapist that you are ready to move on, maybe you are not. Really give your head a shake it is ridiculous that you feel obligated to continue with something you do not need anymore. Are you that insecure? I have been through it all. Any person that has helped you will be so happy and proud to know you are strong enough because of thier efforts.
Move on and grow up.

Congratulation, first of all. How lucky you are.I ...

2006-03-18T07:44:00.000-05:00

Congratulation, first of all. How lucky you are.
I have been in therapy since 2000 after a breakdown and I know how you feel. I don't think I will ever leave my therapist and its fine with me.
But back to your problem.
Start making your appts. farther apart and as your therapist sees how well you are doing, I'm sure she will recommend that you are indeed ready to be "let go". Good luck.

Just read the story about a person letting go and ...

2006-03-18T07:32:00.000-05:00

Just read the story about a person letting go and wanting to move on from therapy, it happens very gradually and do not fear the new independence you have gained , it signifies the new healed you breaking through and living a better life. Try hypnotherapy too, its an incredible therapy that gets directly to the root cause of your trauma and clears it almost imediately. i recommend it!! Love and light to you always.
Whitefeather

just tell them you're BROKE and you're Cutting all...

2006-03-17T18:51:00.000-05:00

just tell them you're BROKE and you're Cutting all the FAT from your budget.

Look at the big picture, and remember, she is not ...

2006-03-17T09:24:00.000-05:00

Look at the big picture, and remember, she is not really like your mother - think of how she really feels. You are a client; this is a business relationship. Her job is to make you better. If you are ready to graduate, she will be proud of doing her job. Many patients feel closer to their therapists than they really are. Think about a real friendship - there is give and take. They know a lot about you, listen to your problems, etc., but you also know a lot about them and listen to their problems, and a friend is there when needed. Has she disclosed her personal life to you, talked about her problems, made you feel needed as a friend? If so, that is not an appropriate patient/doctor relationship, and you should find another therapist anyway. If indeed she is not sharing her intimate personal life with you, other than how many kids she has, is she married, etc., she is your doctor and will understand and be happy for you. Are you really ready or do you feel you need something different; ready to graduate to a different therapy?